There are many self-help books on the market today that are filled with tips and quotes about being positive. “If you just do this ____”, they claim, “Then you can think positively too!” But for me, it’s not that simple. I am great at being positive for other people, helping them see a different perspective about a situation they are stuck on. But when you are wandering through the dark valley yourself, it’s not so easy to pass on positive tips to yourself. So what do you do? What is it that you need to find to be more positive about your own situation?
I truly believe that it’s a matter of prayer, first of all. God has helped me in situations I struggled through for years, and it was only when I came into the light after the dark valley that I realized how much stronger my faith was for having been through the journey.
Second, it’s a matter of heart. If you have a bad attitude, nothing in your life will change. I worked with a woman that could suck the joy out of a room in no time with her negative attitude and opinion about others. And you can either wallow too, or choose to have a better attitude. Choose to see the good in others, choose to have compassion for whatever they are going through in life. It’s not easy, it’s not in our nature to be sympathetic and perfect in all situations. It’s something you have to work on and strive to be better about. Not perfect by any means, but when you are heading down a dark road in your thoughts, stop yourself and try to find the positive. This is something that has to be done again and again. Make a habit of it; of stopping yourself from heading down the dark road and turn around.
Third and finally, it’s a matter of opinion. Oh how often I have fallen into this trap! You believe the worst about someone because the grapevine has been whispering in your ear that they are the worst sort, someone not to be trusted. I have felt that way about a few people I didn’t know very well, but I had heard the stories and my sin-filled heart started to believe that they were true. But when I got the chance to talk to the person, I found out that my opinion of them was completely skewed.
With hard work and determination, you can take a negative attitude and turn it sunny side up.